From The Courage to Grieve by Judy Tatelbaum
“Grief is a wound that needs attention in order to heal. To work through and complete grief means to face our feelings openly and honestly, to express or release our feelings fully, and to tolerate and accept our feelings for however long it takes for the wound to heal. For most of us, that is a big order. Therefore, it takes courage to grieve. It takes courage to feel our pain and to face the unfamiliar. It takes courage to grieve in a society that mistakenly values restraint, where we risk the rejection of others by being open or different. Open mourners are a select group, willing to journey into pain and sorrow and anger in order to heal and recover…many of us fear that if allowed in, grief will bowl us over indefinitely. The truth is that grief experienced does dissolve. The only grief that does not end is grief that has not been fully faced.”
Often when we are grieving, others tell us to keep busy and to avoid being alone. These may be helpful temporary measures but …
What happens to all those feelings we are trying not to feel?
Who are we now without our loved one?
How do we live our lives now when we feel so devastated by our loss?
Perhaps you have experienced:
- sudden, unexpected death
- loss of a child
- loss due to suicide
- loss due to homicide
- loss of a parent
- loss of a partner/spouse
- loss of a sibling
- loss of a friend
- loss of a former spouse/partner.
If you are grieving from the death of a loved one, time alone may not help your aching heart.
Spending time with a professionally trained nurse-therapist who is a bereaved parent and knows the territory of devastating loss and grief, may help you discover some tools and resources for your on-going grief and healing journey.
Individual Therapy Sessions are offered utilizing an Integrated, Holistic approach to grief-work and healing.
I am availible to meet with you for private, individual sessions here in Rockport, Ma.
for individual sessions via phone or Internet.
For those experiencing prolonged or complicated grief …
A special weekend offering —which can be experienced as a one-to-one retreat, where the client meets alone with the therapist and receives her care over the course of a weekend, Or, the retreat can be expereinced as a group retreat, with a small group of other people who are experiencing grief after the death of a loved one.
The Beyond Words Retreat provides participants with the opportunity to step back from everyday life, slow down, and focus inward.
Under the skillful, compassionate care and guidance of holistic nurse-psychotherapist Anita Pandolfe Ruchman, participants safely and gently tend to their grief through quiet guided sharing, journaling by the fire, deep relaxation techniques, gentle movement, meditation, massage, and music.
The retreat provides comfort, coping measures, and a bit of relief from the heaviness and exhaustion of grief. We will utilize the majestic beauty of the natural surroundings of Cape Ann to take in the healing power of the sea, the grounding earth energy of the granite, and the soothing spaciousness of the great blue sky.
Please contact me directly for more information and availability: