On Grieving

I thought I would share this excerpt from The Courage to Grieve by Judy Tatelbaum

“Grief is a wound that needs attention in order to heal. To work through and complete grief means to face our feelings openly and honestly, to express or release our feelings fully, and to tolerate and accept our feelings for however long it takes for the wound to heal.  For most of us, that is a big order.  Therefore, it takes courage to grieve.  It takes courage to feel our pain and to face the unfamiliar.  It takes courage to grieve in a society that mistakenly values restraint, where we risk the rejection of others by being open or different.  Open mourners are a select group, willing to journey into pain and sorrow and anger in order to heal and recover…many of us fear that if allowed in, grief will bowl us over indefinitely.  The truth is that grief experienced does dissolve.  The only grief that does not end is grief that has not been fully faced.”